Marriage does not Justify Rape

Raping someone is where either the girl or boy did not consent to the sexual activity. Things that can lead to this is drugs or alcohol but there are many other ways. Sometimes it doesn’t even have to involve them. If the other partner is unconscious and not able to speak for them self’s even if they had sexual interaction before it is still considered rape. Rape is not just what happened in the room when it happened it’s the aftermath too. The victims will feel so guilty and like it is there fault. It takes people a long time to get over such a traumatic event.

Many people are just told to get over a rape but how can they when they were assaulted.

According to the National Sexual Violence Resource center 1 out of 5 women and 1 of 71 men in the United States by someone in their life. This includes forced penetration and drugs or alcohol. (https://www.nsvrc.org/statistics#:~:text=The%20self%2Dreported%20incidence%20of,the%20United%20States%20in%202018.)  Rape is more likely to happen to a woman rather than a man but that does not mean it can’t happen. Looking at that statistic 1 out of 5 women have been raped sometime in their life. This is a very high statistic for something that can do so much harm to a person. But this statistic is for only the people who have come forward and told someone many people don’t have the ability to come forward. Some people might feel like this is their fault and they don’t know how to stand up for them self’s because they lost so much respect for themselves when they were taken advantage of. I think rape does not have enough punishment than it should, personally I feel if you take someone from a man or woman that makes them feel like less of a person then the person who did it should be nothing. They deserve to rot in prison, I understand mistakes happen but to me rape is not a mistake. You as a person chose to take advantage of someone so you deserve to rot.

Rape is also not just physical abuse it is mental abuse. Especially if the victim is trying so hard for them to stop, they have no control. They feel helpless and all they want is to be able to make them stop. Mentally after the assault the victim can have short and long-term effects. Some victims but as I refer to them survivors have flashbacks of the attack. They will go back to that day and it will cause them to become very upset. Being raped is something you will not forget but some people grow to overcome it. They might feel quilt, they feel like it is there fault. They feel like they put themselves in the position. But there is no way you can tell when something like this is about to happen, nobody should feel guiltily because it is not their fault. These effects can be short term and long term depending on the person. Some people might be able to move on and better themselves but sometimes it destroys a person. Depression is also a side effect after being attacked. They will not feel like themselves in there on body and feel as if they are nothing. Having depression is not easy to overcome because there are so many things that come with it. Depression causes lack of sleep, eating and isolation. They have no other human interaction and just want to be by themselves to grieve. As Vera E. Mouradian says mental harm diminishes a person’s wellbeing and destroys their self confidence (https://mainweb-v.musc.edu/vawprevention/research/defining.shtml). The emotional stress they will be in after the assault is something that people have a hard time overcoming because it is something they will never forget about.

Rape is a disgusting for someone to do to a person. If someone does not want to be intimate with you then you should not force them to do it with you to just make yourself feel better. There is no justification to why someone did it. There are no excuses assaulting such as rape is not just like hitting someone you are taking their self-respect and dignity. Some people have a hard time even getting that back because they feel less of a person for what someone did to them. I have no respect for people who take advantage of someone or makes it seem like it didn’t even happen. I feel like if a person comes forward and have proof then they should be believed. But sometimes it goes through the cracks and the person who did this harm is free to go. While the victim sits there and thinks it is all their fault.

In Game of Thrones rape between Daenerys and Khal Drago happened in the first episode of the season 1. They had been married for maybe an hour when they went outside the wedding recipient and then it all went downhill. Khal Drago forced Daenerys to have sex with him even after she said she did not want to do anything like that. He forced her to turn around as he hit it from the back. The whole time Deanery was crying asking him to stop. But let’s look in this perspective Deanery was sold to be married to Kahl Drago. She was only 13 years old, and she did not want to have sex with him. No matter marriage or not this is not okay. If someone does not say I want to have sex agree with the terms it is not okay. Even if they are married they have a right to say no it is there right to their own body to determine if they want something like this done to their body. The pain you heard in her cry makes you just want to jump through the screen and beat Khal Drago up because something should not happen especially basically to a kid. I know it shouldn’t happen to anyone but a kid, it is a disgrace. If someone is crying the whole time how does the other person just keep going.

When we go to the book looking at the scene it makes it seem like the rape was just sex. I feel like in the book they overlooked the issue just because they were married. In the book it made it seem like it was a romantic time but there is no way it was romantic it was outside, and she was crying. Romantic sex does not involve someone begging for them to stop and they just continue doing the same thing to make themselves feel better. In the book it made me feel when I read it that he was in love with her and respected her body. Then the show it didn’t look like that at all. As Beverly Engel says some married couples have been raped but they do not look it as rape because they don’t even notice it happened( https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-compassion-chronicles/202003/intimate-partner-sexual-assault). They might feel like it is supposed to happen because they are married but that does not mean it has to happen. As a man or a woman, you have the right to say no, no matter who they are to you. Marriage sex that is nonconsensual sex is hard to prove because they are married and might not think someone will believe them. In the book it makes it seem consensual when in no way it was. The book twisted something to make Khal not look like a bad person even when he was.

            Overall this is a tough topic to me to talk about because I have no respect for anyone who can sit there and do such a harmful thing to someone. How can someone possible just sit there and keep going even when they are kicking, screaming and crying. Then there also is the case of someone being unconscious and they have no way to even know this is happening to them. Putting all this pain on someone that does not just affect them when it is happening this affect them after the fact. Some people might not even come forward because they feel like they might just make a fool of themselves even though it was not their fault. No matter what I feel like the book should of never flipped it to make it seem like Khal was doing the right thing by having sex with his wife after sex. This was not right, and the book made it seem like he was in the right, but he was not. The show was the only way to truly see how the scene happened. It makes me think whoever was watching the movie did they really think it was okay for Khal to do such a thing. Do people actually look and think it is okay for someone to treat a woman this way. Marriage rape is a thing, I am disgusted on how the book turned this into something it wasn’t.